I have come to the realization that one of my former friends is a narcissist. There will be no names listed as I do not want to be accused of slander. I have known this person a very long time. I always thought we were friends but I’ve come to realize, we were never friends. She just used me to feel better about herself. She has been in and out of my life and that’s mainly because she only talks to me when she feels I serve a purpose in her life. I’m not writing this to get revenge. I’m writing this as a way to vent and also a way to let others know they are not alone. I used to think maybe she wasn’t doing things to hurt me on purpose, now I believe otherwise. I believe all the while she acted like she was my friend, she was plotting against me. And no, I’m not paranoid. I don’t think everyone is out to get me. But looking back at the think my friend did to me, I think most of the time she knew exactly what she was doing.
I will not always be angry with her but I will never associate with her again. Not because I’m some spiteful person who holds on to grudges but because I’m tired of being used by her simply to inflate her ego. And no, I am not going to sit down and talk with her. Narcissists don’t think they are doing anything wrong. She would just shift the blame on me and accuse me of being “crazy”.
If anyone reading this has dealt with a narcissist, please feel free to share your story in the comments
It’s really disheartening when someone who used to claim to be your friend finds such pleasure in belittling you to anyone who will listen. I really don’t know what this person expects from me. Maybe she expected me to give up photography because she decided to pursue it. If that is her goal, she will never succeed. Why should I give up something I love just because she doesn’t want the competition. She’s even went so low as to talk negatively about me to her ex husband, who really doesn’t want any kind of dialogue with her, other than to talk about their daughter. I guess she is just desperate for someone to take her side. I guess people see past the manipulation after awhile. Have I talked about her? Sure, I have. To people I am close to, not people who can’t stand to be in the same room with me. But of course, the people I talked to are not surprised by her latest antics. They know how she is and I guess I just look like an idiot because I gave her another chance. However, this time, I’m truly done. I’m not saying I will never forgive her, but we will never be friends again. I can’t be friends with someone whose main goal is to bring me down. I hate having conflict with someone, but why should I spend energy on trying to keep her happy? She doesn’t care if she hurts me. I’m not going to waste my time trying to seek revenge, I just refuse to ever speak to her again.
Whenever I reflect on our friendship, I realize, she’s never been a true friend. She’s not happy unless she’s making someone else unhappy. I refuse to let her have that kind of power over me. I am not sure why I ever started speaking to her again. I had hoped she’d changed but I see now that she’s always going to be the same manipulative, vindictive person she’s always been.
From a business perspective, I would think that it would make your business look bad if you are constantly criticizing someone else’s skills. To say my skills “suck” is not only immature but I’ve had several other people tell me otherwise, people who have no reason to compliment me. There’s a reason I don’t charge for my services yet. I’m not competing with anyone but myself. If I ever feel my skills are up to par and I want to take on photography as a profession, I will. So I will end on this note: Go ahead and say what you want about me. You are only making yourself and your business look bad. People will eventually see the “real” you and I can guarantee they won’t like what they see.
at macrophotography. So I found a cheap nifty way to do macrophotography without dropping some serious moola on a new lens. It’s not the easiest set up though and I really need to get a tripod (I have one but someone lost the camera mount plate to it). It’s hard to get any decent shots holding my camera. But here’s a couple I did manage to get.
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Will, the kids, and I were going to go to this place called Mynelle Gardens in Jackson, but it was closed (even though the website and a sing on their door said they would be open). Who knows, maybe the person working overslept LOL. But we were in Jackson and there’s always something to do there. This is one of those times when I’m really glad I have a smart phone. I looked up nearby places to get an idea of where we should go and the Old Capitol Museum popped up. I haven’t been there since I was in elementary school and I figured the kids might enjoy going. It had been renovated since I had been when I was a kid so it was like I had never been. I’m still trying to learn how to shoot indoor pictures. Some of them turned out pretty well.
Jackson as seen from the 2nd floor of the Old Capitol
The Rotunda inside the Old Capitol
The back of the Old Capitol
When my blog crashed, I didn’t re-install a spam plug in and so I have had an overload of spam lately. I don’t like using captcha because I know how annoying it can be. But hopefully the spam plug in I installed with at least help to where I don’t have 500 spam comments a day.
I haven’t been the best blogger either. I’ve been busy practicing my photography and on the weekends, I usually manage to talk the hubby and at least 2 of my kids into going on short road trips. My 16 year old (wow…that makes me sound and feel old LOL) usually doesn’t care anything about going. I am don’t know if we’ll have time for a road trip this weekend. My cousin is getting married tomorrow at 2. So there’s my whole day pretty much. I’m not sure about Sunday and I haven’t really thought of anywhere to go.
Homeschooling with Trey has been…challenging to say the least. However, he does seem to be getting better with his math. His reading/comprehension skills are excellent, so we’re focusing more on math now. When he was in kindergarten, he was reading at a 4th-5th grade level. So I think it’ll be ok to concentrate on math skills for awhile. He also loves science and social studies so we throw some of that in too. I really think he does so much better with homeschooling and won’t even listen to any mention of public school LOL. He’s one of those kids who really benefits with one on one teaching. He likes finishing his school work then having the rest of the day to do what he wants. School doesn’t take that long because I am only teaching one child whereas a teacher in a school has 20-30 kids they are having to help.
I have a ton of stuff to do today, so I guess I need to get off the computer and get it done. But before I close out the post, here’s a few pics of my awesome kiddos:
My youngest, Trey
My daughter, Rhiannon
I love this pic of my boys!
My oldest, Jake
I am trying to leave all of the negativity behind. I really don’t know why I care what anyone thinks of me anyway.
In case you don’t want to go to my photography site, I’ll share some photos here
Mural on a building
I should really just have my title read Southerpixie: A Soap Opera. That’s what this blog has become lately. But I need somewhere to vent. I vented on facebook earlier, which I hardly ever do. But I just couldn’t stand it anymore.
I’ve been really trying to get more into photography. But I am not ready to charge anyone for my work. I am always super critical of what I do. If you want to know the whole back story, just read my previous posts.
I’ve had a photo facebook page since around February 20th. I made it mainly to showcase my photos. I have like 200 albums on my personal facebook. So I thought maybe making a fan page for my photos would be a good idea. And if I ever did decide to start taking photos and charge for it, I’d already have the page set up.
Well I shared the page on my personal facebook page and apparently, it caused my now-former friend to get mad and rant about me in front of her 16 year old son. Well, being the disrespectful brat he is, he decided it would be a good idea to go to my photo page and bash me. He said I was evil and pathetic and that I was trying to copy his mom. Oh and he said I was jealous,a sore loser, and failed at photography. No honey, I’ve been dabbling in photography for well over 10 years. I bought my first dslr 2 years ago. If photography was your mom’s hobby since she was a kid, why have I never heard about it? I’ve known her for over 20 years and she’s never mentioned it. I feel sorry for the people they are charging for pictures because they aren’t that good at all. They rely far too much on editing instead of learning how to use their cameras. I am not sure if she put her 16 yr old son into saying something to me or not. It wouldn’t surprise me. She knows I’d be more careful in what I said to him. But that’s no excuse. I would never condone my 16 year old disrespecting an adult no matter how much I didn’t like the person.
I blocked her and her kid from my facebook. I wish I could block her from my fan page but I can’t unless she comments or “likes” the page.
It really doesn’t surprise me that she got her kid to say something to me. She has never said anything to my face, she always gets someone else to do that for her. Every time she gets a new friend, she starts drama with me. But what is funny is those friendships never last. They finally see her for what she is. I just know that I’m done with her. I refuse to ever be her friend again. All she does bring jr high drama into my life. I’m sure she’ll try to keep something going now that I’ve cut her out of my life again. It really discouraged me and hurt my feelings for someone to say those things about me and my photography at first. But then I had to realize where it was coming from. And if she doesn’t feel I’m as good as she is, why the hostility? She feels threatened. I don’t feel threatened by her work. I actually feel sorry for her because she thinks it’s good enough to charge money. She thinks just because her photography partner has an “online photography certificate” that automatically makes her better than me. Little does she know, most great photographers are self taught. So she can continue to sell sub par work while I work at improving my skills. Whenever I get to where I feel my services deserve monetary compensation, potential customers won’t even think to contact her.
If anyone wants to check out my photography page, here it is