I have come to the realization that one of my former friends is a narcissist. There will be no names listed as I do not want to be accused of slander. I have known this person a very long time. I always thought we were friends but I’ve come to realize, we were never friends. She just used me to feel better about herself. She has been in and out of my life and that’s mainly because she only talks to me when she feels I serve a purpose in her life. I’m not writing this to get revenge. I’m writing this as a way to vent and also a way to let others know they are not alone. I used to think maybe she wasn’t doing things to hurt me on purpose, now I believe otherwise. I believe all the while she acted like she was my friend, she was plotting against me. And no, I’m not paranoid. I don’t think everyone is out to get me. But looking back at the think my friend did to me, I think most of the time she knew exactly what she was doing.
I will not always be angry with her but I will never associate with her again. Not because I’m some spiteful person who holds on to grudges but because I’m tired of being used by her simply to inflate her ego. And no, I am not going to sit down and talk with her. Narcissists don’t think they are doing anything wrong. She would just shift the blame on me and accuse me of being “crazy”.
If anyone reading this has dealt with a narcissist, please feel free to share your story in the comments