Stop being a people pleaser. Seriously. Just stop. You will never make everyone happy. There will always be people out there who won’t like you, no matter what you do. I’ve found this out time and time again. It seems people only like you when they can walk all over you. Then guess what? You are the one who is stressed out and miserable. Yes, when you finally say “enough!” and stop allowing people to take advantage of you they will more than likely get angry with you. They may even spread rumors about you to who ever will listen. But in the long run, you will be happier.
There are some people who will use you and act like your friend. They will act that way until you no longer do exactly what they want, then they will turn on you like a snake. That’s ok though. Think about it, is that the kind of person you really want in your life? Most of the time, those kinds of people never do anything for you anyway. They are “takers” and that’s all they know how to do. And if you’re a “giver” like me, you seem to attract those kinds of people from miles away. I’m not exactly sure what kind of vibe that “givers” exude, but it believe me, the “takers” can usually see it right away. They know who they can take advantage of and who can see right through them.
And I know, when you’re a “people pleaser” it’s so difficult to say “no”. You don’t want people to dislike you. But if you even think a situation might bring stress to you, just politely decline. You don’t even have to give a reason. Just be nice and let them down easy. You may feel bad for a little while, but it will save you a lot of headache later on down the line.
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