Frenemy: A High School Tale

Sometimes I think too much.  Lately I’ve been thinking about friendships.  I don’t really have any friends and I used to think it was because no one liked me. But the truth is, I’m a bit standoffish. I don’t go out of my way to make friends.  I feel awkward and wierd trying to talk to new people.  I think the reason behind some of that is the fact that the few close friends I’ve had have used me or were never friends at all. Case in point. I was friends with a girl in jr high and I am not sure why I ever considered her a friend, much less my best friend. She always made fun of me, convinced other girls to bully me, and sabatoged relationships I had.

For instance, she insisted I date a male friend of hers when we were in 10th grade.  I didn’t really know him but she kept on and on until I finally agreed.  He and I went on one date.  He was ok. Nothing to write home about.  But I decided to give him a chance.  He was not the best looking guy, but I know looks aren’t everything.  I wanted to get to know him. A few days later, he called me and said that he didn’t want to go out with me anymore (remember, we had only been on 1 date lol) because someone had basically told him I was stupid and didn’t have any sense. The funny thing about that is, he went to a different school than I did and the only person we had in common was my friend. He had given me this cheap necklace for my birthday and asked me to give it to our friend so she could bring it to him. I didn’t care. It was probably fake anyway. So I gave the necklace to my friend and the next day, she comes to school wearing the necklace!  I’m not an idiot so I point blank asked her, “Are you and F going out now?”  She looked me right in my face and told me “no”. I left it at that.

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Giving Gifts in 2018

Giving gifts as an adult gets more and more difficult. As you and your friends start to grow your disposable income, you have the freedom to buy for yourself the things that would normally have to wait to be gifts. When birthdays, Christmas and other events from housewarming to Valentine’s Day roll around, it can leave you in quandary: what to get for the person who has everything?

Today we’re inspiring you with a few ideas for original gifts to give in 2018, so you’ll be everyone’s favourite friend.

Luxury

One way to give a fantastic gift that will keep on giving is to pick an aspect of your friend or partner’s life and inject a little luxury into it. Life is gruelling, and with the UK working longer and longer hours transforming the more routine parts of life into luxurious treats is a great way to claw back some ‘me-time’.

Pick a part of your friend’s life you know they value and think about how to make a little more special. If they value their grooming, a gift of some luxury aftershave is thoughtful and is something that will make them think of you every time they get ready to impress!

For the friend that loves a cup of coffee in the morning, you have plenty of options, from coffee subscriptions that will give them an exciting new flavour each week, to new coffee gizmos and accessories like the Aeropress!

Experiences

The gift you can guarantee a friend won’t have is a unique experience! Even if it’s something they’ve done before, treating them to hot air ballooning, or sports car driving is a treat they’ll be happy to revisit.

Of course, you’ll have to do a bit of research and careful though to fit the experience to the friend. Buying a flying lesson for some who suffers from crippling vertigo isn’t much of a present at all. If you want to give the gift of an experience, or tickets for something, but you’re not certain what would be a good fit, try talking to partners or family – find something they’ve always wanted to do but haven’t been able to, or something they love.

If it’s suitable for two, going with them is a great way to spend some quality time with a friend, and show them you really care. If you’ve treated them to theatre tickets, then buying dinner or some interval drinks is another little bonus present that makes the evening truly special for them!

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City Breaks: An Essential Packing Guide

City breaks: an essential packing guide

London, Prague, Barcelona or Rome — when it comes to packing for a city break, where do you start? Unlike beach escapes where you can throw a few bikinis and a pair of flip flops in a case, city holidays need a carefully considered wardrobe.

 

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The itinerary is more active on a city break than a beach holiday, exploring and experiencing the culture that a city has to offer.

With the wrong clothing, this can be a disaster — blisters and sunburn anyone? Thought not! Daniel Footwear is here to help, so take a look at our essential city break packing checklist before heading away:

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Advice for “people pleasers”

Stop being a people pleaser. Seriously. Just stop. You will never make everyone happy.  There will always be people out there who won’t like you, no matter what you do. I’ve found this out time and time again. It seems people only like you when they can walk all over you. Then guess what? You are the one who is stressed out and miserable. Yes, when you finally say “enough!” and stop allowing people to take advantage of you they will more than likely get angry with you. They may even spread rumors about you to who ever will listen. But in the long run, you will be happier.

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There are some people who will use you and act like your friend. They will act that way until you no longer do exactly what they want, then they will turn on you like a snake. That’s ok though. Think about it, is that the kind of person you really want in your life? Most of the time, those kinds of people never do anything for you anyway. They are “takers” and that’s all they know how to do.  And if you’re a “giver” like me, you seem to attract those kinds of people from miles away. I’m not exactly sure what kind of vibe that “givers” exude, but it believe me, the “takers” can usually see it right away. They know who they can take advantage of and who can see right through them.

And I know, when you’re a “people pleaser” it’s so difficult to say “no”. You don’t want people to dislike you. But if you even think a situation might bring stress to you, just politely decline. You don’t even have to give a reason. Just be nice and let them down easy. You may feel bad for a little while, but it will save you a lot of headache later on down the line.
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