Happy New Year: 12 Bible Verses To Help Your Marriage For The Next 12 Months

A new year is upon us which means that many people will be making resolutions. This time-honored tradition has inspired people to lose weight, learn a new language, travel the world, take more time for themselves, and much more.

Most resolutions are based on improving yourself from an individualistic standpoint. Less common are the resolutions geared towards improving a relationship in their life. Your marriage is one of the most important, if not the most important, commitment you’ve made in your life. Each year you should resolve to improve and build upon your marriage.

To help get you started in 2015, here are 12 Bible verses for the next 12 months to help your marriage.

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope – Jeremiah 29:11

There is no better way to start the new year, than with a passage about the future. It is important to cherish each new day but there is something about the new year that really evokes a sense of hope and foresight into the future. Use this opportunity to plan for the things that you hope to accomplish as a couple in the new year. This could be a commitment to take the honeymoon you never did, spend more time with your family as a group, or making sure that you never go to bed angry with one another.

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect – Romans 12:2

This passage in particular has a little bit more of an individualistic connotation. However, it is something that you and your spouse can strive to together. Not conforming to the norms that society has dictated will keep you both true to yourselves and who you are. Interests and tastes will change over time, but from a fundamental standpoint, you should stay true to yourself.

Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law. For the commandments, “You shall not commit adultery, You shall not murder, You shall not steal, You shall not covet,” and any other commandment, are summed up in this word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself”. Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfilling of the law – Romans 13:8-10

The main takeaway from this passage is simply to love each other. If you love one another, you will be abiding by all of the commandments mentioned.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love – 1 Corinthians 13:13

This simple verse should put everything into perspective. The greatest feeling is love, even when there seems to be no hope. It is important to show your love for your significant other especially in times where their faith is wavering or they have lost hope.

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love – Ephesians 4:2

Another simple verse to help guide the your actions and temperament with one another. Instead of being quick to anger, you should both make a concerted effort to remain patient with one another and show each other love and affection.

Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching – Proverbs 1:8

While this verse won’t apply to all marriages, it does apply to those with children. Far too often are parents run by their children. The child has the final say and in the end, gets what they want. This puts a lot of strain on the parents and their marriage both financially and emotionally. As parents, in the coming year, place greater emphasis on raising your children to have respect and courtesy for their elders.

She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks – Proverbs 31: 15-17

Portioning for servant girls is not a very common trait today, but the rest of the passage is. Women have a hefty load in today’s world. They are often providers, caregivers, and maintainers of the family’s lives. As a husband, it is important to show her admiration and respect. Give her the attention and help she deserves in 2015.

There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. We love because he first loved us – 1 John 4: 18-19

There are a lot of unknowns in the coming year. Many people are fearful of the unknown. However, love conquers this fear. Together, you and your spouse can march fearfully into the new year of unknowns with love to guide you.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Ephesians 5:25

This straightforward verse is applicable to both genders. Both husbands and wives should love their significant other just as Christ love the church.

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband – Ephesians 5:33

The verse can be applied in reverse to both genders. The matter of fact is that in the coming year, spouses must love one another as much as they love themselves as well as respecting one another.

Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers over all wrongs – Proverbs 10:12

Another straight-forward verse to live by for the next 12 months and beyond. Anger and hatred toward one another will only make things worse. Forgiveness and love will help to mend wounds and right any wrongs.

A greedy man brings trouble to his family, but he who hates bribes will live – Proverbs 15:27

While the verse focuses on the man, it can be applied to the woman too. Greed is a vice, a cardinal sin, that left unchecked can wreak havoc on a marriage. Greed comes in many forms. Spouses should not be greedy when it comes to money, attention, time for themselves, personal belongings, and more. Greed can also lead one to lust for another, causing them to be unfaithful. Remaining humble and grateful for what you have should be an important focus of your new year.

 

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Drama Drama….

Remember how I wrote about finding out my husband had a nearly 18 year old daughter from a relationship he had when he was a teenager himself? If not, then here’s the post .  Well we went to visit her several times and eventually convinced her to move in with us. She was living in another state in a group home (for reasons I’m not going to get into on here).  The area she was wanting to move to was not a good one.  We were afraid she might get in with the wrong crowd and end up not only getting herself hurt, but possibly her child (who is a year old).  She realized she didn’t want to be on her own just yet,especially in a place where she doesn’t have family.  So we went and picked her up last Sunday.  We drove 6 hours out there, helped her load her stuff off, then drove 6 hours back.  Her bio mom lives in the same state. She lost custody of K when K was 4.  I’m not sure why she was never able to get custody back. And she hadn’t seen K since she was 14. She never made the effort to see her in the group homes she was in. I’m not sure if the state would have allowed that or not. However, K’s mom was supposed to go visit her when she was having the baby and she never did.  I don’t have a lot of respect for the bio mom because she’s extremely rude and blames everyone else for her problems.  I added bio mom on my Facebook in an effort to be cordial with her. I even told her that we would make sure that K. had a way to come and see her. I get a message back that basically says “I don’t have a problem with you or Will, but I seriously hope you aren’t planning on getting my daughter with y’all and turning her against me. I love my daughter whether or not I was able to be with her.”  I kept my cool, even though I wanted to tell her exactly what I think of her mothering skills.  I told her that was not our intention at all.I also told her we’d bring K. and the baby to her or she was more than welcome to come to our house if she wanted.  She stated “No, I won’t come out there, she can come see me”.   We weren’t planning on turning K. against her mom. All we wanted was to move her down here so we could be around K. and the baby.

Back to the story. We get back here on Monday morning about 12 am.  We all go to bed around 2 am. K’s mom had been texting/calling her since we left the group home. She was wanting K. to come over the next day.   Around 2 we left to go meet them at Wal-mart.  We live about 45 min from the town we met bio mom in.  Bio mom lives maybe 15 min away.  So we really went out of our way so she could see K.  When we got there, bio mom didn’t even acknowledge I was there and only managed to mutter out a “hey” to Will. Now, did I expect her to be all excited to see us? No.  But it would have been nice if she had at least said “Thank you.”  We thought that K. might just stay the night and then come back home the next day to get settled in here.  Nope.  Will text her to see when she wanted to come home and she said she was going to stay with her stepsister. Ok,fine. Well then yesterday, Will text her again asking when she was coming home so we could make plans to come get her.  She said “Well, my mom is wanting me to stay until the weekend.”  She then wanted Will to drive 45 min to pick her up, bring her out here to get some clothes for her and the baby, and then drive her back. Um, no.  Her step sister ended up driving her out here.  Will talked to her before she got here and said that he was a little jealous that she was spending all this time with her mom and her family and basically ignoring us. K.’s excuse was, “Well I didn’t do anything wrong. I figured you’d understand I’d want to see my family because I haven’t seen them in awhile.”  It’s not that we didn’t think she’d want to see them, we just thought she’d get settled in here first.  Will also told her that her mom could be more appreciative of the fact that we drove her all the way out there to see them. She said “Well, my mom doesn’t have a car.”  The car that they were in when we met up with them was her stepsister’s car.  It just seems like she makes excuses for her mom.  However, when we visited her in the group home,she kept saying how immature her mom was and how her mom got on her nerves.  It seems now she’s done a total turn around when it comes to her mom.  And to add to all this, my mil has become buddy/buddy with the bio mom. I thought it was kind of odd at first that my mil hasn’t called Will,but then again, she’s probably getting all her news from bio mom. I’d love for my mil to explain just why it’s imperative for her to be friends with bio mom. There’s really no sense in it.

I just told Will to not even text K. anymore.  We are not planning things around her.  If she gets ready to come home and we aren’t busy, then we’ll go get her. Otherwise, she’ll have to wait until it’s convenient for us.  Will and I are both hurt by the way she has treated us.  We didn’t think it would be easy with her moving in here, but we didn’t expect her to use us that way.  We have spent a lot of money on her and the baby.  We took time out of our schedule to come and get her. That also cost money.  It’s like she doesn’t even appreciate it.  I know part of it is that she has this newfound freedom. I get that.  But she needs to learn to respect other people. I guess that’s something she was never taught.  I just pray she sees who really cares about her and stop acting so self centered.

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Positive change

It’s December already. I’ve only posted here and there because I’ve been busy. And we’ve also had a bit of drama. Nothing too major, well it’s major, but it’s good news.  I don’t usually post really personal stuff on here, but I decided to go ahead and post this.

This story will probably be a little long but I will make it as short as I can.  My husband got a call about 2 weeks before Thanksgiving at around 11:30 pm. He was asleep but I saw that his mom was the one calling, so I told him to answer his phone.  My mil told him that there was some girl who had called her saying that my husband is her father.  Now, before anyone freaks out, this girl is nearly 18. I’ve only been with my husband for 16 years so therefore, the girl was born before we ever got together.  However, I was still upset.  I didn’t know what to think.  I was just really shocked.  My husband had told me about the situation with his ex and how she was pregnant but told him that the baby wasn’t his.  She and her parents also didn’t want him coming around and pretty much threatened him.  He was 16 so he let them intimidate him. He even offered to take care of the baby even if it wasn’t his. Not because he just loved his ex so much but because he didn’t want the child to be without a father.  They still told him no, they didn’t want him around.  He moved on with his life, met my son Jake, and I. We dated, got married and had our two kids.

I will admit, I didn’t handle the news well at first. I was angry and even though he didn’t cheat on me, I felt as though he had. I prayed, a lot.  I was finally able to put my feelings aside and encourage my husband to at least call the girl. She said she didn’t want anything. She just wanted to know her dad.  I am not going to go into details but she has not had the best life. I wish that Will and I had known about her years ago so we could have raised her.  But there’s nothing that can be done about that now. And here’s the kicker.  The daughter has a daughter of her own(she’s almost 1). So not only did I gain a daughter, I gained a granddaughter as well.  We were able to go and see them in the state they live in.  It was a really wonderful visit and I am glad to have them in our family now.  The only thing I have been aggravated by is the hostility of the ex. I am not sure what she has to be mad at my husband about because he was never mean to her or anything. It’s just one of those things I am gonna have to pray about.  I would share pics of our meeting on here, but I will probably wait awhile.  But my bonus daughter and her daughter are both gorgeous, inside and out.

Will and I text her every day to see how she’s doing. I don’t think she’s ever really had someone who has cared enough to check on her everyday.  But she’s part of our family and I will treat her the same way I treat my other kids.  She will probably get tired of me checking up on her all the time, but hey, she wanted a real family LOL.

I was kind of apprehensive about posting about it on Facebook because I live in a small town. And if you know anything about small towns, you know they thrive on gossip.  But I decided to put it out there in case anyone else heard about tit and started adding their own spin to things.  I know how easily rumors spread in a  small town.  The people who commented on the photos had positive things to say.  I’m sure there are a few who have their own thoughts and that’s fine. I’ve started realizing that I don’t need to take everyone’s opinion into consideration.

Ok, well I have some various Christmas light photos I will try to post later.  I got some great shots of the Christmas lights at Canton this year. 😀

 

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well, hello there!

So, long time, no post, right? I’ve been busy with homeschooling the kids and working. I took off Thursday and Friday of last week. Thursday was so I could go to the Canton Flea Market. If you’ve never heard of it, google it. It’s kind of a big deal for us Mississippians. I don’t usually buy anything, I just like to go and look. However, Will insisted on buying some fudge. It was not cheap, but it’s oh so good! Then I took Friday off just because I needed it LOL. Will and I spent most of the day running errands (he was off work too). It was still nice to be able to hang out with him though.
Oh and Jake surprised me the other day by asking if I wanted to go to the Brantley Gilbert concert with him and his girlfriend. My sister was going to go with them but the tickets were for the pit in front of the stage and she wasn’t sure how she’d handle being in a crowd with a bunch of people. The concert acts were good, but the crowd was not. I have been to several rock concerts and the crowds were no where near as obnoxious as this crowd was. This is the first country concert I’ve been to since I was a teenager, so I’m trying to hold off saying that all country concert goers are this annoying. Also, Jackson is a smoke free city (I think) however there were a lot of people lighting up and I just go to where I couldn’t stand being around it. Cigarette smoke gives me a bad headache so right before Brantley Gilbert went on stage, I had to go to the outside of the pit. Which really, I could see better anyway. That’s another thing. I’m 4’11” and people either don’t see me standing there or they don’t care, they will just stand right in front of me. If I ever go to another concert like that, I will be spending the extra money and getting actual seats. Overall though, I had a great time. I don’t really have any good pics from the concert though because I didn’t take my camera, just my cell phone.
However, I did get some pretty good photos of the eclipse last week:
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