Positive change

It’s December already. I’ve only posted here and there because I’ve been busy. And we’ve also had a bit of drama. Nothing too major, well it’s major, but it’s good news.  I don’t usually post really personal stuff on here, but I decided to go ahead and post this.

This story will probably be a little long but I will make it as short as I can.  My husband got a call about 2 weeks before Thanksgiving at around 11:30 pm. He was asleep but I saw that his mom was the one calling, so I told him to answer his phone.  My mil told him that there was some girl who had called her saying that my husband is her father.  Now, before anyone freaks out, this girl is nearly 18. I’ve only been with my husband for 16 years so therefore, the girl was born before we ever got together.  However, I was still upset.  I didn’t know what to think.  I was just really shocked.  My husband had told me about the situation with his ex and how she was pregnant but told him that the baby wasn’t his.  She and her parents also didn’t want him coming around and pretty much threatened him.  He was 16 so he let them intimidate him. He even offered to take care of the baby even if it wasn’t his. Not because he just loved his ex so much but because he didn’t want the child to be without a father.  They still told him no, they didn’t want him around.  He moved on with his life, met my son Jake, and I. We dated, got married and had our two kids.

I will admit, I didn’t handle the news well at first. I was angry and even though he didn’t cheat on me, I felt as though he had. I prayed, a lot.  I was finally able to put my feelings aside and encourage my husband to at least call the girl. She said she didn’t want anything. She just wanted to know her dad.  I am not going to go into details but she has not had the best life. I wish that Will and I had known about her years ago so we could have raised her.  But there’s nothing that can be done about that now. And here’s the kicker.  The daughter has a daughter of her own(she’s almost 1). So not only did I gain a daughter, I gained a granddaughter as well.  We were able to go and see them in the state they live in.  It was a really wonderful visit and I am glad to have them in our family now.  The only thing I have been aggravated by is the hostility of the ex. I am not sure what she has to be mad at my husband about because he was never mean to her or anything. It’s just one of those things I am gonna have to pray about.  I would share pics of our meeting on here, but I will probably wait awhile.  But my bonus daughter and her daughter are both gorgeous, inside and out.

Will and I text her every day to see how she’s doing. I don’t think she’s ever really had someone who has cared enough to check on her everyday.  But she’s part of our family and I will treat her the same way I treat my other kids.  She will probably get tired of me checking up on her all the time, but hey, she wanted a real family LOL.

I was kind of apprehensive about posting about it on Facebook because I live in a small town. And if you know anything about small towns, you know they thrive on gossip.  But I decided to put it out there in case anyone else heard about tit and started adding their own spin to things.  I know how easily rumors spread in a  small town.  The people who commented on the photos had positive things to say.  I’m sure there are a few who have their own thoughts and that’s fine. I’ve started realizing that I don’t need to take everyone’s opinion into consideration.

Ok, well I have some various Christmas light photos I will try to post later.  I got some great shots of the Christmas lights at Canton this year. 😀

 

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