There has been this viral post going around facebook for some time now. It’s entitled “2o things a mom should tell her son.” I found a copy of it here . I agree with the list for the most part. All except for # 19. It says “Please choose your spouse wisely. My daughter-in-law will be the gatekeeper for me spending time with you and my grandchildren.” As a mom, I would much rather my son marry someone who makes him happy. I don’t want him to worry about whether or not she likes me. In my opinion, if you have raised your son right, he will choose an upstanding young lady as his wife. I’m not a mother-in-law (yet) but I have already resolved to mind my own business. Of course if there was violence in the home, I would get involved, but other than that, I’d let my son and his wife run their household the way they see fit. </span> I don’t think that the daughter-in-law is the only one who controls if the inlaws see the grandchildren or not. Many times, the inlaws also have some sort of influence. If the inlaws are constantly disrespectful to the DIL, and talk about the DIL in front of the children, then yes, the DIL may limit how often the grandparents see the grandchildren. I can’t say I totally disagree with that. You don’t have to like your DIL, but you should respect her as the mother of your grandchildren. If she is a good mother, it doesn’t matter whether or not you like her. I know, there are probably DILs out there who are just hateful, spiteful people. But from my experience a DIL is not that way just because. Sometimes the inlaws treat her less than great and the DIL gets hurt and acts out. However, I believe that each individual is responsible for the way they behave, no matter how someone else treats them. So, unless the inlaws are a bad influence on the children, the DIL should just push personal feelings aside and let the grandchildren spend time with their grandparents. The best advice I can give to MILs is to talk to their DIL and see what the issue is and how it can be resolved. Don’t undermine how your son and his wife raise their children (unless it is dangerous to the child). You run your household and let them run theirs. The less controlling you are, the more likely they are to let you in their kids lives. This is just my opinion and is in no way directed towards anyone in particular.
My daughter’s dance recital program was Saturday. It was around 3 hours long and I’m surprised that I was able to sit still that long lol. She and her group did 3 dances, 4 counting the finale. She has been in a combo class this year and that includes ballet, tap, and jazz. I personally think that tap is her best dance. She did extremely well with that routine.
After all of the dance routines were done, the dance instructor gave out awards. Now, I live in a small town/county. Most of the kids who win things around here are the children of teachers or their parents have money or whatever. That’s just how it’s always been. Rhiannon has been in several school pageants and not won anything, it’s always been the teacher’s kids or the popular people in town’s kids who won. So I was listening to them going through the awards after the recital and clapping but really just wanting them to hurry up (hey, it was 9 pm and I was hungry). She got to the last award and it was the “Student of the Year” award and so I figured it would go to someone who had been taking dance for awhile. The teacher was saying that the award was going to a student who was always on time, had a positive attitude, and brightened up the room. When she said Rhiannon’s name, my mouth just fell open. I mean not that I don’t think she’s awesome, because I do. But I’m biased lol. I was so happy that someone else saw that in her. Along with her certificate, she received a cute little dance workout outfit and a free add on class. She’s thinking about taking lyrical and hip hop.
I really think that the dance instructor was fair with who she gave awards to for the simple reason that she’s not from around here. She doesn’t care who the kids’ parents are, she treats them all the same. And to me, that says a lot about her. I have a lot of respect for her because she instructs kids as young as 3. I think she had about 10-12 little ones this year. She probably has around 30 students in all and she shows such patience with all of them. You can tell she is definitely doing what she loves.
I hope everyone had a great mother’s day! I spent the day with my husband, kids, sisters,bil,niece, and parents. We decided to have lunch at my sister’s house since most of the restaurants would more than likely be crowded. We had barbecue sandwiches and it was delicious.
I never ask my husband and kids for anything expensive on Mother’s Day. I guess because I can always think of better way to spend money than on new jewelry or whatever. However, my husband and kids made cards for me and that was enough. Not to mention, my husband took me and the kids out to eat Mexican cuisine on Friday. He also cleaned the house for me. Of course, since I have 3 kids, plus keep a 2.5 year old, the house didn’t stay clean long. Oh well, it’s the thought that counts, right?
I’m thinking I’m going to let the kids finish up their homeschool this week. Most of the public schools will be getting out in a week or so. I know Trey will be so glad because he doesn’t like school at all. He’d rather be watching youtube videos or playing video games. Hey, but what kid wouldn’t rather be doing that? LOL. Rhiannon has been really great at getting her school work done. I think she just likes to go ahead and work on it early so she can have the rest of the day to do what she wants. It’s good that she’s going to get done this week though because she has her recital on Saturday. She will have practice nearly every day this week for 2 hours each day. I am not sure if she wants to take dance next year or not. If not, I am going to try to find another extracurricular activity for her. I wish I could take the summer off to just hang out with them but it looks like I’m gonna be keeping two extra kids over the summer, along with the 2.5 yr old I already keep. Oh well, at least I will have a break from homeschooling 🙂
So this was a note that was left on my cabinet the other day. I can tell you, this isn’t my hand writing LOL. As you can see, Trey does not like school work. Rhiannon was not amused and promptly tore up the note and told him “This is what I think of your note!” haha..gotta love siblings.