You are beautiful

I haven’t had a good rant in awhile, so I think it’s time for one. I have a friend who is taller and thinner than I am. I’m 4’11” and have about 30-40 lbs I need to get rid of. If you’re a fellow shorty, you know how an extra 30-40 lbs looks on us. My friend is around 5’7″ and probably weighs what I do, however, because she’s taller, she’s thinner. I was venting to her on facebook how the “plus-size” models aren’t so “plussed sized” and how I’d like to see someone like me out there too. A few minutes later, she proceeds to tell me how she buttoned up her pants without having a muffin top and how proud she was of herself. That just irritated me and hurt my feelings at the same time. She knew I was having a low self esteem moment and she chose to brag on herself. And no, I don’t talk about my self esteem issues to her every day. So she could have at least kept that to herself for another day or so.
And back to the plus size model issue. Most of them are not what I would consider “fat”. They are 5’7″ and taller. They are a size 12-14. For that height, I don’t consider that to be obese at all. I think that since the supermodel world has convinced everyone that a 5’7″ size 0 is perfection, that’s what people believe. Don’t get me wrong, I know there are a lot of naturally skinny girls out there. The ones who, no matter how much they eat, can’t gain weight (ugh..I am soo jealous of you lol). Then there are girls like me, who just look at a cheesecake and gain 10 lbs. I have seen people much smaller than me, eat twice as much as I do. So for one, people need to stop assuming that just because someone is overweight it means that they eat more than other people. Most of the time, that’s not true. And people, including myself, should stop assuming all the thin girls out there don’t eat.
This world would be a much better place if people would learn that beauty has very little to do with a number on the scale. It has every thing to do with how one carries themselves and if they have respect for other people. I know some people are probably rolling their eyes. When I was younger, I would have done the same thing. But the older I get, the more I see that it’s true. Inner beauty is so much more important than outer beauty. And as women, we need to stop tearing each other down. How can we expect men to respect us when we don’t even respect each other? And to all of my bigger girls(especially the younger women) out there, who feel like men look down on them because they don’t have the “perfect body”, maybe you need to reevaluate the kind of men you seek out. If a man can’t see past your weight, they aren’t worth the time of day. And I will say, as you get older, men will care less about your weight and more about the kind of person you are.


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