The Case of the Missing Kitten

My sister sends me a message the other day and wants to know if I wanted one of the kittens at her house. He’s blue/silver and she knows that I’ve been looking for one like him for awhile. I have two other cats, Cleo and Paisley (he’s a boy,his name is a whole ‘nother story lol). My sister told me that the kitten was skittish but not feral. She could catch him while he was eating but he wouldn’t just let her walk up to him otherwise. She caught him the other day and let me know that I could come and get him. He doesn’t like being held at all. I put him in the laundry room with a litter box just to kind of let him get acclimated to the new place. And plus I didn’t want him hiding where I couldn’t find him. The first day, he stayed up on the laundry room shelf. He wouldn’t socialize with the other cats at all, well, besides hissing at them which Cleo and Paisley reciprocated. I know it takes a little time for older cats to accept newer cats and vice versa. We decided to name him Sheldon because one of Rhi’s favorite shows is Big Bang Theory.
So the next day, I went to check on Sheldon to see how he was doing. I looked all through the laundry room. I thought maybe he had gotten behind the washer and dryer. No big deal. Except when I looked back behind the dryer, I noticed that the hose that goes from the dryer to the vent outside was pushed aside. I thought, “Oh no, he’s gotten outside.” I figured all I’d have to do is set some food out and wait for him to come out of hiding. That would have been a simple solution had he actually been outside. I told Will about Sheldon being missing. So he went and looked around outside for him. He even looked under the house. He didn’t see or hear anything. Fast forward to later in the evening….I walked in the living room and Will said, “I know where the kitten is. He’s between the floors.” Huh..I didn’t even know we had two floors. See, we live in a manufactured home. We have the main floor and then a sub floor. Will said that he must have gotten stuck in between the floors when he escaped from hole in the laundry room floor where the hose is. Just then, I heard Sheldon start meowing. I wanted to help him but I knew there was no way he was going to come to me if I called him (even though I tried anyway). Will said he could move the vent flashing over so that he’d have a way to crawl out from between the floors and come back up through the vent opening in the floor.
So my plan was to open up a can of tuna and hope that the smell would lure him towards the vent. I left it there overnight with the vent cover off. I didn’t put it down in the vent because there was no way I wanted the smell of tuna wafting through the house. I had to put the other two cats up in the laundry room so they wouldn’t eat it. The next day, I got up and half expected to see the tuna gone. It wasn’t. That meant that Sheldon was still between the floors. I start panicking at this point because I knew the kitten couldn’t survive more than another day or so. I didn’t hear him meow during the day at all. But later on in the afternoon, I heard him again. I mean honestly, I would have torn the floor up to get him out. But I really didn’t want to. I had another idea. I thought maybe if I bring Cleo and Paisley in here, he’ll hear them and come on out. When I let them out, Paisley immediately found the tuna and began eating it. A few minutes later, I notice a little blue/silver head popping up in the vent opening. I tried to reach in and pick him up, but he backed up into the vent opening. So I decided to get a piece of leftover chicken strip to use to lure him out of the opening. He finally starts easing towards me. He sees the other cats eating the tuna and he gradually starts climbing out. I picked him up and held him even though I could tell he really didn’t want me to. I was just so glad he was finally out of the floor.
The other cats seem to be warming up to him. Maybe if Sheldon sees that the other cats aren’t afraid of us, he’ll come around. He’s still a kitten so I’m hoping that even though he may never be a lap kitty, at least he won’t mind being around people as much.

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How Parents Can Stay Connected to Their Adult Children

How Parents Can Stay Connected to Their Adult Ch

The bond between parent and child is something that is not replicated anywhere else in life. Many parents spend the first years of their children’s lives creating a deep and loving relationship that they hope will continue throughout the child’s life. However, often times when children grow up and leave the home, they often lose the relationship that they used to have with their parents.
It is important in any stage of life for parents and kids to maintain a close relationship, especially if there are grandkids in the equation. There are many things that parents and kids can do to maintain their relationship as they grow up. Any family can use these ideas to strengthen their relationship and build a better relationship than ever before. These are simple ideas that can help even families who are miles away stay close. Here are some ways parents can stay connected to their adult children.
Share a common interest
Most parents and kids will have similar interests. Parents can use these similar interests to continue to bond with their kids. Parents can even try out something new that their kids now like to see if it is also something they might be interested in. one good idea is bonding over a TV show from Texas TV companies.
Continue to support their ambitions
As kids grow up, they will have different ideas and plans for their life on their own. Parents need to understand that their children are now old enough to make their own decisions and should support the lifestyle that they choose if it of no harm to themselves and is making them happy. A parent might not agree with every aspect of their child’s new life, but they need to do what is best for their child’s happiness.
Do not force a certain lifestyle on them
Just as parents need to support their children’s life choices, they also cannot try to push a certain lifestyle on them once they are out of the house. Parents need to understand that their job as the decision maker is done and now their job is to support and nurture the relationship they have with their kids. Their children may take a different path than they did or would choose for them, but that is still OK.
Invest time in the grandkids
Grandkids often come into play soon after adult children leave the house. Parents are often excited to become grandparents and are ready to start spoiling them as much as they can. Parents should try to be as invested in making a connection with their grandchildren as they were with their own children. This will show their children how much they care and give everyone a stronger bond to rely on.
Set up a weekly call
Especially for parents who live far away from their children, this is a must. Parents who go from talking to their children every day to only seeing them a few times a year can feel very lonely and distant. A weekly phone conversation or video call can help parents and kids stay connected.

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Happy New Year: 12 Bible Verses To Help Your Marriage For The Next 12 Months

A new year is upon us which means that many people will be making resolutions. This time-honored tradition has inspired people to lose weight, learn a new language, travel the world, take more time for themselves, and much more.

Most resolutions are based on improving yourself from an individualistic standpoint. Less common are the resolutions geared towards improving a relationship in their life. Your marriage is one of the most important, if not the most important, commitment you’ve made in your life. Each year you should resolve to improve and build upon your marriage.

To help get you started in 2015, here are 12 Bible verses for the next 12 months to help your marriage.

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope – Jeremiah 29:11

There is no better way to start the new year, than with a passage about the future. It is important to cherish each new day but there is something about the new year that really evokes a sense of hope and foresight into the future. Use this opportunity to plan for the things that you hope to accomplish as a couple in the new year. This could be a commitment to take the honeymoon you never did, spend more time with your family as a group, or making sure that you never go to bed angry with one another.

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect – Romans 12:2

This passage in particular has a little bit more of an individualistic connotation. However, it is something that you and your spouse can strive to together. Not conforming to the norms that society has dictated will keep you both true to yourselves and who you are. Interests and tastes will change over time, but from a fundamental standpoint, you should stay true to yourself.

Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law. For the commandments, “You shall not commit adultery, You shall not murder, You shall not steal, You shall not covet,” and any other commandment, are summed up in this word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself”. Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfilling of the law – Romans 13:8-10

The main takeaway from this passage is simply to love each other. If you love one another, you will be abiding by all of the commandments mentioned.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love – 1 Corinthians 13:13

This simple verse should put everything into perspective. The greatest feeling is love, even when there seems to be no hope. It is important to show your love for your significant other especially in times where their faith is wavering or they have lost hope.

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love – Ephesians 4:2

Another simple verse to help guide the your actions and temperament with one another. Instead of being quick to anger, you should both make a concerted effort to remain patient with one another and show each other love and affection.

Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching – Proverbs 1:8

While this verse won’t apply to all marriages, it does apply to those with children. Far too often are parents run by their children. The child has the final say and in the end, gets what they want. This puts a lot of strain on the parents and their marriage both financially and emotionally. As parents, in the coming year, place greater emphasis on raising your children to have respect and courtesy for their elders.

She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks – Proverbs 31: 15-17

Portioning for servant girls is not a very common trait today, but the rest of the passage is. Women have a hefty load in today’s world. They are often providers, caregivers, and maintainers of the family’s lives. As a husband, it is important to show her admiration and respect. Give her the attention and help she deserves in 2015.

There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. We love because he first loved us – 1 John 4: 18-19

There are a lot of unknowns in the coming year. Many people are fearful of the unknown. However, love conquers this fear. Together, you and your spouse can march fearfully into the new year of unknowns with love to guide you.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Ephesians 5:25

This straightforward verse is applicable to both genders. Both husbands and wives should love their significant other just as Christ love the church.

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband – Ephesians 5:33

The verse can be applied in reverse to both genders. The matter of fact is that in the coming year, spouses must love one another as much as they love themselves as well as respecting one another.

Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers over all wrongs – Proverbs 10:12

Another straight-forward verse to live by for the next 12 months and beyond. Anger and hatred toward one another will only make things worse. Forgiveness and love will help to mend wounds and right any wrongs.

A greedy man brings trouble to his family, but he who hates bribes will live – Proverbs 15:27

While the verse focuses on the man, it can be applied to the woman too. Greed is a vice, a cardinal sin, that left unchecked can wreak havoc on a marriage. Greed comes in many forms. Spouses should not be greedy when it comes to money, attention, time for themselves, personal belongings, and more. Greed can also lead one to lust for another, causing them to be unfaithful. Remaining humble and grateful for what you have should be an important focus of your new year.


Andrew Fujii is a marketing professional with expertise in digital/web and content marketing. He is also a copywriter for multiple agencies producing copy for blogs, articles, websites, product packaging, mobile apps, and more.

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Drama Drama….

Remember how I wrote about finding out my husband had a nearly 18 year old daughter from a relationship he had when he was a teenager himself? If not, then here’s the post .  Well we went to visit her several times and eventually convinced her to move in with us. She was living in another state in a group home (for reasons I’m not going to get into on here).  The area she was wanting to move to was not a good one.  We were afraid she might get in with the wrong crowd and end up not only getting herself hurt, but possibly her child (who is a year old).  She realized she didn’t want to be on her own just yet,especially in a place where she doesn’t have family.  So we went and picked her up last Sunday.  We drove 6 hours out there, helped her load her stuff off, then drove 6 hours back.  Her bio mom lives in the same state. She lost custody of K when K was 4.  I’m not sure why she was never able to get custody back. And she hadn’t seen K since she was 14. She never made the effort to see her in the group homes she was in. I’m not sure if the state would have allowed that or not. However, K’s mom was supposed to go visit her when she was having the baby and she never did.  I don’t have a lot of respect for the bio mom because she’s extremely rude and blames everyone else for her problems.  I added bio mom on my Facebook in an effort to be cordial with her. I even told her that we would make sure that K. had a way to come and see her. I get a message back that basically says “I don’t have a problem with you or Will, but I seriously hope you aren’t planning on getting my daughter with y’all and turning her against me. I love my daughter whether or not I was able to be with her.”  I kept my cool, even though I wanted to tell her exactly what I think of her mothering skills.  I told her that was not our intention at all.I also told her we’d bring K. and the baby to her or she was more than welcome to come to our house if she wanted.  She stated “No, I won’t come out there, she can come see me”.   We weren’t planning on turning K. against her mom. All we wanted was to move her down here so we could be around K. and the baby.

Back to the story. We get back here on Monday morning about 12 am.  We all go to bed around 2 am. K’s mom had been texting/calling her since we left the group home. She was wanting K. to come over the next day.   Around 2 we left to go meet them at Wal-mart.  We live about 45 min from the town we met bio mom in.  Bio mom lives maybe 15 min away.  So we really went out of our way so she could see K.  When we got there, bio mom didn’t even acknowledge I was there and only managed to mutter out a “hey” to Will. Now, did I expect her to be all excited to see us? No.  But it would have been nice if she had at least said “Thank you.”  We thought that K. might just stay the night and then come back home the next day to get settled in here.  Nope.  Will text her to see when she wanted to come home and she said she was going to stay with her stepsister. Ok,fine. Well then yesterday, Will text her again asking when she was coming home so we could make plans to come get her.  She said “Well, my mom is wanting me to stay until the weekend.”  She then wanted Will to drive 45 min to pick her up, bring her out here to get some clothes for her and the baby, and then drive her back. Um, no.  Her step sister ended up driving her out here.  Will talked to her before she got here and said that he was a little jealous that she was spending all this time with her mom and her family and basically ignoring us. K.’s excuse was, “Well I didn’t do anything wrong. I figured you’d understand I’d want to see my family because I haven’t seen them in awhile.”  It’s not that we didn’t think she’d want to see them, we just thought she’d get settled in here first.  Will also told her that her mom could be more appreciative of the fact that we drove her all the way out there to see them. She said “Well, my mom doesn’t have a car.”  The car that they were in when we met up with them was her stepsister’s car.  It just seems like she makes excuses for her mom.  However, when we visited her in the group home,she kept saying how immature her mom was and how her mom got on her nerves.  It seems now she’s done a total turn around when it comes to her mom.  And to add to all this, my mil has become buddy/buddy with the bio mom. I thought it was kind of odd at first that my mil hasn’t called Will,but then again, she’s probably getting all her news from bio mom. I’d love for my mil to explain just why it’s imperative for her to be friends with bio mom. There’s really no sense in it.

I just told Will to not even text K. anymore.  We are not planning things around her.  If she gets ready to come home and we aren’t busy, then we’ll go get her. Otherwise, she’ll have to wait until it’s convenient for us.  Will and I are both hurt by the way she has treated us.  We didn’t think it would be easy with her moving in here, but we didn’t expect her to use us that way.  We have spent a lot of money on her and the baby.  We took time out of our schedule to come and get her. That also cost money.  It’s like she doesn’t even appreciate it.  I know part of it is that she has this newfound freedom. I get that.  But she needs to learn to respect other people. I guess that’s something she was never taught.  I just pray she sees who really cares about her and stop acting so self centered.

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