Positive change

It’s December already. I’ve only posted here and there because I’ve been busy. And we’ve also had a bit of drama. Nothing too major, well it’s major, but it’s good news.  I don’t usually post really personal stuff on here, but I decided to go ahead and post this.

This story will probably be a little long but I will make it as short as I can.  My husband got a call about 2 weeks before Thanksgiving at around 11:30 pm. He was asleep but I saw that his mom was the one calling, so I told him to answer his phone.  My mil told him that there was some girl who had called her saying that my husband is her father.  Now, before anyone freaks out, this girl is nearly 18. I’ve only been with my husband for 16 years so therefore, the girl was born before we ever got together.  However, I was still upset.  I didn’t know what to think.  I was just really shocked.  My husband had told me about the situation with his ex and how she was pregnant but told him that the baby wasn’t his.  She and her parents also didn’t want him coming around and pretty much threatened him.  He was 16 so he let them intimidate him. He even offered to take care of the baby even if it wasn’t his. Not because he just loved his ex so much but because he didn’t want the child to be without a father.  They still told him no, they didn’t want him around.  He moved on with his life, met my son Jake, and I. We dated, got married and had our two kids.

I will admit, I didn’t handle the news well at first. I was angry and even though he didn’t cheat on me, I felt as though he had. I prayed, a lot.  I was finally able to put my feelings aside and encourage my husband to at least call the girl. She said she didn’t want anything. She just wanted to know her dad.  I am not going to go into details but she has not had the best life. I wish that Will and I had known about her years ago so we could have raised her.  But there’s nothing that can be done about that now. And here’s the kicker.  The daughter has a daughter of her own(she’s almost 1). So not only did I gain a daughter, I gained a granddaughter as well.  We were able to go and see them in the state they live in.  It was a really wonderful visit and I am glad to have them in our family now.  The only thing I have been aggravated by is the hostility of the ex. I am not sure what she has to be mad at my husband about because he was never mean to her or anything. It’s just one of those things I am gonna have to pray about.  I would share pics of our meeting on here, but I will probably wait awhile.  But my bonus daughter and her daughter are both gorgeous, inside and out.

Will and I text her every day to see how she’s doing. I don’t think she’s ever really had someone who has cared enough to check on her everyday.  But she’s part of our family and I will treat her the same way I treat my other kids.  She will probably get tired of me checking up on her all the time, but hey, she wanted a real family LOL.

I was kind of apprehensive about posting about it on Facebook because I live in a small town. And if you know anything about small towns, you know they thrive on gossip.  But I decided to put it out there in case anyone else heard about tit and started adding their own spin to things.  I know how easily rumors spread in a  small town.  The people who commented on the photos had positive things to say.  I’m sure there are a few who have their own thoughts and that’s fine. I’ve started realizing that I don’t need to take everyone’s opinion into consideration.

Ok, well I have some various Christmas light photos I will try to post later.  I got some great shots of the Christmas lights at Canton this year. 😀

 

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well, hello there!

So, long time, no post, right? I’ve been busy with homeschooling the kids and working. I took off Thursday and Friday of last week. Thursday was so I could go to the Canton Flea Market. If you’ve never heard of it, google it. It’s kind of a big deal for us Mississippians. I don’t usually buy anything, I just like to go and look. However, Will insisted on buying some fudge. It was not cheap, but it’s oh so good! Then I took Friday off just because I needed it LOL. Will and I spent most of the day running errands (he was off work too). It was still nice to be able to hang out with him though.
Oh and Jake surprised me the other day by asking if I wanted to go to the Brantley Gilbert concert with him and his girlfriend. My sister was going to go with them but the tickets were for the pit in front of the stage and she wasn’t sure how she’d handle being in a crowd with a bunch of people. The concert acts were good, but the crowd was not. I have been to several rock concerts and the crowds were no where near as obnoxious as this crowd was. This is the first country concert I’ve been to since I was a teenager, so I’m trying to hold off saying that all country concert goers are this annoying. Also, Jackson is a smoke free city (I think) however there were a lot of people lighting up and I just go to where I couldn’t stand being around it. Cigarette smoke gives me a bad headache so right before Brantley Gilbert went on stage, I had to go to the outside of the pit. Which really, I could see better anyway. That’s another thing. I’m 4’11” and people either don’t see me standing there or they don’t care, they will just stand right in front of me. If I ever go to another concert like that, I will be spending the extra money and getting actual seats. Overall though, I had a great time. I don’t really have any good pics from the concert though because I didn’t take my camera, just my cell phone.
However, I did get some pretty good photos of the eclipse last week:
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Fourth of July Fun

I hope everyone had an excellent 4th of July weekend. On Friday, my husband, kids, and I went to my inlaws. They wanted me to take some family photos, so I did. I am not entirely happy with my work though. I could have done better but I learned it’s difficult to fend off mosquitos and try to take photos at the same time. My mother in law loved the photos though so that’s all that matters. Will says I’m overly critical of my work. I guess I am.

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